A JOURNEY FROM ESCAPISM TO MASTERING SELF-DISCIPLINE
My name is Sri and over the last 3 years I’ve made it my mission to help my men bring out their best version by developing their core habits and changing their routine. Using my Inner-child mindfulness meditations, clients were able to get results anywhere from finding their first girl-friend, to getting a raise of $40,000 with just one of my 6-month 1:1 Coaching program.
I’ve turned my UNIQUE skills into a full time coaching business that allows me to work from home and anywhere that I have an internet connection.
I always wanted this.
The ability to create every day. The ability to choose my working hours. The freedom to travel when I wanted and the money to make it all happen.
This laptop lifestyle is certainly a bit lavish, but it almost didn’t happen.
I’ve failed so many times.
I’m only here because I care too much to give up.
Part 1: Love
I started my personal growth journey 16 years ago. I was an extreme introvert.
At the age of 17, I read my first book in personal growth – How to Win Friends and Influence People. I expected to overcome my life long low-self esteem and shame by reading a book ;). Not only did I not make that, but by the end, the only thing I had to show for my in-existent friend’s circle and embarrassing social interactions in my teenage years..
I then decided to put my efforts towards learning social dynamics because I knew I could create deep friendships and potentially find a girlfriend doing that. I still remember the day I decided to ask my friend Sam who was very good at women on how to talk to a girl I liked in the bus. He technically became my dating coach. When I applied what I learnt from him and for the very first time – approach to talk to a girl I liked, I felt the anxiety and fear. I sat next to her on the bus on our way to college and I went speechless. I choked. I just gave her an awkward smile and jolted to the back seat whilst my friends laughed at me.
It took me a year to get comfortable talking to women. While I struggled with my social skills, I tried to take a small step each day, I started dating a girl in college. Even when I finally got a girlfriend I wanted, I kept up my personal growth journey because I figured this would be a path where all my dreams will come true.
And it was.
It was my first taste of success in anything. Soon, I became the party guy in my class.
In 2006, I migrated to the U.S for my Master’s in Computer science. In 2009, I met my gorgeous wife and fell in love. I got married within 9 months of us getting connected over a chat room. It was all a blur.
Little did I know that I am signing up for the biggest transformation of my life or psychiatrist Eric Bern puts it even more succinctly, “Love is nature’s psychotherapy”.
In the 7 years of being married and having a son with my wife and I went through rough times and truly understood what it is to be a man. It was one of the toughest growth experiences for me to learn how to love and be loved. I also discovered how our childhood experiences dictate how we relate with others. Despite our efforts to work on keeping the marriage alive, we came to a point where our paths were leading in different directions. So, we separated.
Being single again in my early 30’s, exploring dating was hard. I wish I had not made the mistakes I made in mid 2o’s. But, those mistakes made me the man who I am today. After getting Coached by Relationship gurus like Neil Strauss and Sasha Daygame, I got really good at dating and seeing success with women. I thought that would fill the hole in my heart. I didn’t realize I was filling the wrong “holes”.
During this period, I identified that I needed to work on my Inner-Game. In this process, I developed a way to connect with my true self, learn self-love, and improve my awareness which I call: The Inner Child Meditation.
The mindfulness approach to relationships really enhanced my overall happiness & sense of wellness. This learning experience inspired me to teach the basics of relationships & confidence through coaching and talks and I envisioned doing this on a larger scale. I had started focusing on my mission and had awesome habits and systems in place which made me disciplined which seemed to attract the right woman into my life more!
And then…I moved on to my next project
Over the next few months, I grew my coaching business from nothing…to covering monthly rent in San Francisco…to an hourly rate more than what I used to get paid in my job as a Data Scientist.
The majority of my income came from helping people with their career and relationships goals.
Everything seemed to be working great.
Seeing my own transformation, I had a vision that I wanted to create!
I decided to take the leap, quit my job and move to India to help men overcome depression/anxiety/procrastination and become a better version of themselves by adopting monk mode habits.
PART 2: Money
My mom was disappointed in me…
My friends didn’t expect it to work…
My clients in-flow dried up…
My co-workers thought I went crazy…
…and I was broken because I had made such a drastic decision.
Instead of finding another job in India, I decided to pursue my dream of full-time entrepreneurship.
In the back of my mind, I even thought I was crazy to do something like this. To leave a stable job, move to another country, and pursue the dream of a full-time income from my business.
After a few months, several startup ideas failing started to affect my well-being, and my income drastically reduced from $10,000+/ month to almost zero.
I desperately tried to create a new source of income, but when nothing seemed to work, my parents came to me.
“SON, IT’S TIME FOR YOU TO GET A JOB.”
My parents have always been my biggest supporters—but they are traditional at the same time and saw the writing on the wall even when I wanted to avoid it.
Two months in a row, I masturbated to porn every day to numb out the pain of failing so miserably. I was in shock. I am still surprised I didn’t off myself with all that was going on.
I used to drive two hours each way to my 20-minute “inspirational” talks while going through the lowest phase of my life. I was asking people to follow their dreams. But, I had little results to show for. Except one. CARING.
It was the nightmare I had always dreaded:
Living in a tiny studio, each and every inch of my place filled with furniture and belongings, making zero income for a whole year…
I could feel the walls closing in…
The fear of rejection and lack of clarity left me with zero confidence.
But I’m too caring to give up. I knew that I could create a successful business.
After those first 3 months, when I was all cried out, I felt a new motivation.
I had already tasted the success in coaching and I couldn’t fathom being in an unpaid Coach forever.
I asked myself, what am I good at as a coach?
Suddenly I had an answer. I had a unique skill that until that moment I wasn’t offering. I wasn’t offering self-love because I wasn’t practicing it myself. So, slowly I started practicing self-love. I lost and found myself in a new way.
I knew how to resolve my client’s internal blocks to love and heal their childhood wounds. After which they show up more powerfully and are able to practice self-love. You can’t give what you don’t have. So, my goal was to create self-love in people.
All that time I spent learning mindfulness so I could save my own marriage, and I had never thought to offer those skills to clients of my own.
I went out and gave a talk on “Mindful Goal setting” and signed up for the first client.
I continued to book clients and in just 6 months I replaced the income from my IT job.
As I continued to get more clear on my unique skills I realized that not only do I have strong skills in Coaching but it’s what I truly love to do.
In 2018, I fell in love one more time with a woman who connects with me in every dimension possible. Physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. What else could I ask for?
I also started creating a loving relationship with my son. Now, He treats me more like a friend than a father. Because, that’s what your inner-child needs as well – the father you never had. Let’s re-parent our inner-child together.
Now I have the pleasure of helping young men who are determined, just like I was, to have their very own version of success.
I help them heal their childhood wounds and find their purpose make them Alpha Buddhas with solid core habits and routine so that they can do what they love
I’ve been told that it’s all too good to be true.
And maybe it is.
But Wouldn’t you like a little more of “Too Good” in your Life?
What would you do if you believed that your dreams are not a myth, your ambition is your ammunition?
What would you do if you believed that you can work on what you love every single day?
How would that change your life?
I want you to feel that same “self-Discipline” I discovered.
I want you to wake up every day knowing that you’re operating at your peak, sharing the UNIQUE GIFT that you’re meant to share!